I told myself it was time to buckle down and get little more professional with my life, meaning I wasn’t going to publicly make political statements. I was going to keep up this neutral smiling face and keep everything positive.
I can’t do that anymore.
I am a feminist. I believe in equality for all sexes.
All the things I read and watch on the subject of feminism are always followed by hideous spewing of hatred.
“Femnazis are just a bunch of hypocritical man-haters”
I love men. After reading through most of comments like these I found out the ‘hypocritical’ statement stems from the old, “women and children first” code of conduct. I would throw myself off a cliff to save someone I love, most people would. So let us throw that argument away.
“Feminists deny men’s rights.”
Who’s denying men’s rights? I actually would like a list of these rights that are being denied to men, by women.
“I don’t mind the old feminists. There was a place for them 50 years ago, but the new ones are terrible, they hate men. There is no reason for this movement today. ”
A rape victim has to see the man who assaulted her every day in school. Yes, we need feminism now. She is not free from harassment and fear.
The new feminists are no different from the old ones. They still fight for equality and freedom.
“Feminists deny being female, they hate women.”
This is a weird one. I saw a few variations of it.
I guess it means they think feminists are all natural or something, (because gee wiz wouldn’t that be terrible.)
I love my lipstick. I love my hair dye and I love my high heels. I also love not wearing lipstick, not coloring my hair, and not wearing high heels. Men and women need the right to feel safe and accepted for being who they are.
“Feminists are all bitches.”
I think this might be coming from the, “She yelled at me when I opened or held the door for her.” She sounds like an asshole. If feminism didn’t exist, she’d still be a shitty person but you wouldn’t have that excuse for it. Stop judging us all.
“Somebody needs to put a dick in this woman”
Way to prove a point. Thank you.
I spent hours reading mean and violent answers people had on the subject of feminism. It hurt me. Too many of my friends have experienced disgusting behavior. They stay quiet because they know it will come back to them being a ‘bitch’ or ‘uptight’ or ‘unable to take a joke’. I always kept my mouth shut on feminism; I was scared it would keep me from getting a date.
After all the horrifying articles written about women being beaten, raped, intimidated, bullied, and all the jokes written at these women’s expense, I will no longer be silent on the stories that I personally know.
I know a woman who was dragged out of a car by her jaw and her hair after giving a guy a ride home.
I know a woman who was leaving a bar when she was grabbed by a complete stranger who forcefully put his mouth on hers, while all his friends laughed.
I know a woman who was telling stories making a group of people laugh until a man said, “I’m going to grab your ass”, when he did, the group laughed at her.
I know a woman who was chased down the street by three men cat calling her.
I know a woman whose “friend” called her a bitch after she told the man harassing and grabbing her to ‘FUCK OFF’.
I know a woman who was told, “Men hate your lipstick.”
I know a woman who was told, “Men hate your short hair”
I know a woman who was told, “Men hate your bangs.”
I knew a girl who was told, “Boys don’t like girls who laugh.”
I knew a girl whose parents told her, “Do what makes you happy.”
I knew a girl whose father bought her power tools instead of dolls.
I knew a girl whose mother bought her boys shoes, because she liked them more.
I knew a girl whose father told her he’d love her no matter who she was.
I knew a girl whose mother encouraged her weird and abnormal humor.
I know a woman whose parents are going to be heartbroken after reading this.
I know all this, because I’m her. Every one of these things happened to me.
I know what it feels like to have your rights taken away. It is heartbreaking.
Unfortunately and fortunately I am not alone.
We all have shared the experience of having our power and respect taken by another individual.
We can empathize with one another, men and women.
As long as we have passive attitudes towards the degradation of other human beings there will never be equality. This behavior towards anyone, regardless of gender, should never be accepted as the norm.